Hello Prayer Warriors,
I came across your website as I was looking for prayer warriors to pray for my marriage restoration and healing. My name is Karen and my husband's name is Chad. Prayer Warriors, I am in a crisis in my marriage to my husband Chad.
My husband abandoned me on Tuesday, the 6th of June, after an argument threatening to never return. The argument was late Monday night into early hours of Tuesday morning.
Chad has caused this separation over several petty issues and has gone back into the past and rehashed old faults, all of which I believed and trusted that he had forgiven and forgotten.
Chad and I have an anointing on our lives as a couple. God initiated this marriage, and we received confirmation when we first met. We got married on March 12, 2022. We just completed 1 year and 4 months. We've known each other since February 2021.
Since May 1st this year, Chad started his second job, which is during the day working from home between 9.30am to 4pm as an appointment setter for a Fitness company and also works a night job as an After Hours Service Consultant for about 5 hrs spread over the night until the next morning until 8.30am, seven days a week. Chad's working hours caused him to start neglecting his reading the Word and spending time in praying on his own and with me. I started noticing Chad slipping and backsliding slowly in his emotions and his temperament becoming erratic, this started causing me to panic coz I know how Chad is when he is disconnected from God and is not fueled by his prayers and the Word daily. I started to request Chad to spend some time in prayer whenever he could. Chad started getting defiant, stubborn and rebellious about my requests. Chad was also getting exhausted due to lack of sleep and this was affecting his moods. His irregular schedule of work was affecting me and I was unwell and exhausted thereby causing me to get complacent with my prayer life and also praying with Chad.
Chad and I neglected our praying as a couple and individually since May until 6th June. The enemy saw this crack and walked right in and caused havoc between us and now we are divided and separated. This is a major spiritual attack on us. There are several other issues which contributed to these arguments off and on, however Chad and I always came together and extended forgiveness and never let the sun go down on our anger at least I thought so, but now it looks like much has been festering within Chad and like a pressure cooker he has burst open with all these pent up issues and emotions.
I love my husband Chad so deeply and do not wish to be separated from him like this. I do not want a divorce either, because he was threatening one earlier and still is threatening. I am missing my husband so much. I am praying and fasting for the last 8 days and in the day to come every day for him to return home. This is a kingdom marriage worth fighting for, and I won't give up on our marriage. Chad and I have so many testimonies in our lives and I praying that God gives us another major testimony of our marriage restoration.
My actual name is Karen Gonsalvez, and my husband is Chad Cunnington. We live in Bendigo, Victoria, Australia. My husband has moved out and is living in some motel in Bendigo. I do not know which motel. Our pastor told me this. My husband is refusing to return home and is refusing to say where he is staying right now. Whenever I have managed to talk to him or text him, he responds in an extreme negative manner, blaming and rehashing the past. It is evident to me that Chad is not praying neither has he repented or surrendered to God. I have repented and am asking God to change me, my old mind sets and habits of the past and to deliver me from strongholds that are affecting my life and marriage.
Chad is extremely bitter, angry, resentful and unforgiving towards me. I spoke to him on the phone today and to my dismay, Chad was repeating all my faults and mistakes and blaming me for this decision he has made. He again threatened divorce and started saying hurtful things. After my conversation, I asked Jesus to forgive him for all the painful things he has said. I admit that both of us have made mistakes that has led to this unexpectedly. I have been fasting my breakfast and praying for the last 8 days and have deeply repented of my mistakes which has caused much hurt to Chad.
I also strongly believe that the jobs Chad is working in at the moment are not from God. The enemy has got these jobs for Chad and getting him to be so busy and have no time for prayer or even go to church properly on Sundays. God will not give something that will cause us to comprise our time with him. Chad is refusing to see that. The money he is earning is good and this has given Chad a false sense of security and arrogance. He is so pride filled now, its so sad to see this. I am talking to him in such a positive way, but he has been relentless in attacking my character. I know the enemy has full control of my husband and he is acting and reasoning from his flesh not through the Holy Spirit. The way he speaks and writes is evident it is not of God. There is a strong demonic hold over my beloved husband and the enemy is trying so hard to destroy our kingdom marriage. Chad has pastorship as his calling and mandate a bit later on in his life's journey.
Chad is making very bad decisions of wanting to go away overseas and preach the gospel, without even preparing for it, he is so double minded right now and is being unreasonable in his thinking and talking. He needs two eye operations and is refusing to get them done. My husband has completely lost his mind.
I am desperate, the more I pray and fast is causing Chad to get angrier, rebellious and defensive and wanting a divorce. I am desperately needing prayers to save my marriage and for my husband to return home. I am desperate to save my marriage. I have currently travelled overseas to be with my mum and relatives in Chennai, India as I couldn't bear to be alone in the house in Bendigo, Victoria Australia.
I am praying that my marriage is healed, our relationship healed and restored. I want to give God all the glory with another super natural testimony.
Would appreciate very much if you could pray for our marriage and for Chad to get radically convicted and surrender to God.
Thank you so much.
God bless you and your ministry double fold everyday.
Blessings
Kind regards
Karen Gonsalvez
